The Vagina List: synonyms for lady parts…

In writing M/F, F/M or F/F erotic romance, at some point you might need a word for vagina. What’s wrong with the “v-word?” I don’t know, but there’s something about it that sends you from sexy to  junior high health class.

There are hundreds (even thousands) of synonyms for vagina, but only a fraction that are appropriate in an erotic romance. I suspect most were coined by young males under the influence of a lot of beer. Cock socket, penis eater, penis penitentiary, bullet wound, oval office, might be amusing, but they don’t have the right tone for a sexy romance. On the internet you can find many lists with words like that. Here’s one:

238 names for vagina

I don’t have hundreds on my list, because I’ve culled the herd to those that are appropriate. These are words I’ve used, have seen in other authors’ books, and have supplemented with a little internet research.

In choosing a synonym or euphemism, keep in mind the context, tone, and genre of your story. Two women discussing a Brazilian wax might use the word vajayjay—a man never would. What works in BDSM erotica would never fly in a sensual historical romance. And often, due to context, you don’t need to mention a specific word at all. To say, “he entered her” is clear.

Also, the context of your particular story might allow you to create a euphemism that while sounding ridiculous in another work, would be perfect for that specific story. For instance, if your characters were environmentalists, you could conceivably use the word “wetlands.” If they were spelunkers, “cave” might come up.

Finally, note that the overall all “vagina list” incudes some anatomical structures that are not direct synonyms, but are in the vicinity (such as labia).

I’ve added the list to my Spanking Thesaurus (located just under the blog headers). You can also access it through this link:

Erotic romance synonyms for vagina

Did I miss any? What words do you use that aren’t on this list?

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#8Sunday, Saturday Spankings…the stakes in Warrior…

Welcome to Saturday Spankings and Weekend Writing Warriors in which authors excerpt eight sentences from a work. Mine is from Warrior, the third Breeder sci-fi romance recently submitted to Loose Id.

About today’s snippet: Anika, the heroine has run away because her brother who holds authority over her has pledged her to another Alpha (Ilian) against her wishes. A civil war has broken out between the five Alphas (Marlix, Ilian and Dak v. Qalin and Artom). Tara is Marlix’s breeder. She helped Anika escape.

Coming in the fall 2014-- Warrior (Breeder 3), the end of the trilogy.

Coming in the fall 2014– Warrior (Breeder 3), the end of the trilogy.

Marlix settled his gaze on Tara. “What do you know about Anika’s disappearance?” he asked in deadly calm voice.

Tara wet her lips. “Why should I know anything about it?”

Marlix slammed his fist on the table, causing Tara to jump and crockery to clatter. “This is no child’s game of cover and find. There is more at stake than her egregious disrespect toward Ilian. Do you not realize Commander Qalin has put a bounty on all who reside within my domicile?”

Enough preamble! Next week I’ll get into the really good stuff!

Unofficial Warrior blurb

A female fighting for freedom. A male armed with determination. Can they save their people?

As a despotic Qalin marches through Parseon intent on conquering every province, Commander Marlix pledges his sister to another Alpha to protect her. Desperate to decide her own fate, Anika flees and finds refuge with the guerilla resistance movement against Qalin. Marlix’s beta Urazi, a male of lesser status, tracks her intending to bring her home to fulfill her duty. But when love blossoms between them, and provinces fall to Qalin, Anika and Urazi realize home has ceased to exist and they alone are all that stand between the people of Parseon and the end of the world.

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Spanking Roundtable: How have your spanking stories evolved?

roundtable-300x210How have your spanking stories evolved since you began writing? I suggested this month’s discussion topic after author Natasha Knight mentioned that in her early writings she focused on erotic spanking, but has since shifted to domestic discipline. I posed these questions:

  • Do you do anything differently now than when you first began writing?
  • Have you crossed any lines you thought you wouldn’t cross?
  • Have spankings become harsher or softer?
  • Have you expanded your repertoire of punishments?
  • How have your attitudes toward spanking changed?
  • Where have you taken your writing since you began?

I’ve been writing erotic romance for five years. My focus has been on domestic discipline rather than “fun” spankings because to me the element of domination is the sexy part not the spanking itself. While the basic nature of what I write has not changed, I’ve become more thoughtful and deliberate. Story has taken on a greater emphasis. I don’t write spanking and hook a plot to it—I write a plot and weave spanking into it.

My writing has become more emotional, more relationship focused.

I see myself as more reserved (less kinky maybe) than some other spanking fiction authors I know, yet I have expanded my spanking repertoire. Initially I focused only on OTK hand and paddle spankings. Since then my characters have used some other positions and implements such as a tawse and a belt. The latter used to shock me when I would read it in other people’s work. The snap of leather sounds so threatening, but I crossed that line and have used belts in books. I’ve also incorporated ginger-figging and anal plugs in conjunction with spanking.

The first time I wrote a public spanking scene (my fourth book, False Pretenses), it felt really risqué .Now, it doesn’t faze me.  (In my second book, Secret Desires, I’d tried to add a public spanking scene. The HOH spanked his naughty girlfriend in front of his buddies. My editor made me take it out because she said the spanking should be private).

Over the years, I’ve come to know my hard limits as far as writing goes. There are certain trends that are hot, but that either leave me cold or that trigger my personal “ick” factor, and I won’t cross those lines.

My writing has benefited from being part of an author community because I receive support, insight, and feedback from my fellow writers. I can remember the days when I felt like I was the only one writing what I write. None of the other erotic romance authors I knew wrote spanking romance or DD. Of course there were other spanking fiction authors out there—but I didn’t know them. Now I do.

I’m curious…if you’ve followed my work, have you noticed any changes? What trends, if any, have you noticed in spanking romance in general?

Please check out the other authors of the Roundtable hop:

 

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For readers: demystifying author-speak lingo

writer mugIf you follow your favorite authors on FB, their blogs, or Twitter you might hear them toss around words like HEA, SWAG, WIP, pantsing. What does it all mean? For those not familiar with author jargon–I’m here to help!

Author Lingo Glossary

ARC – Advanced Review Copy. An early pre-published version of an author’s book that is sent out for review.

Ebook – An electronic book that is read on some sort of computer device as opposed to print. Ebook does not mean self-published. An ebook can be published by Random House or HarperCollins, by an established ebook publisher such as Ellora’s Cave or Loose Id–or can be self-published. Ebook only refers to the electronic format.

HEA – Happily Ever After. The ending of a romance when the hero and heroine end up together forever.

HFN – Happy For Now. The hero and heroine of a romance end up together, and it’s happy, but their future is not set in stone.

Indie—Independently published. Typically used to describe one who is self-published. Some people use this term to refer to e-book publishing houses as well.

K—the number of words in thousands that an author has written. If an author says she “did 3K,” she hasn’t run a race, she’s written 3,000 words on her manuscript.  K is a metric term meaning 1,000 (Kilo).

M/M—A romance between two males. In general, this is a romance between two gay men that is targeted to a heterosexual female audience.

M/F/M, M/M/F – A ménage a trois. M stands for male, F for female. The order of the M & Fs is significant. M/F/M indicates the men have sex only with the female. M/M/F indicates there is sexual activity between the males as well as with the female.

NaNo, NaNoWriMo – National Novel Writing Month. Every November writers can sign up and pledge to write 50,000 words during that month. That’s a lot of writing!

New Adult – Fiction that is aimed at adults in their early 20s. The characters are about that age and face the issues that adults that age deal with. Not to be confused with Young Adult, which features teenagers.

Novel – a work of fiction that is at least 50,000 words (and generally longer. A typical novel would be about 70-80K).

Novelette—A story that is between 7,500 word and 20K. Less than 7,500 words would be a short story.

Novella—A short novel, ranging from 20,000 words to about 50,000 words (although some people put the upper limit at 40K).

Pantser—One who does not plan out their story in advance before writing. Stands for writing by the seat of one’s pants.

Plotter—One who does plan out a story in advance. Often in great detail.

POV—Point of View. The perspective of the story though the eyes of one character.  POV does shift from chapter to chapter or scene to scene, but in general it is considered poor writing to shift POV within a scene. Sometimes inexperienced writers shift POV without realizing they are doing it.

Smexy—A romance that is considered to be “smart” and “sexy.”

SWAG. An author’s promotional items. Stands for Stuff We All Get.

WIP – Work in Progress. The story the author is writing.

YA – Fiction targeted to a “young adult” audience and/or is written with young adult characters. Young adult is a euphemism for adolescent, although many adults read YA. Twilight is YA novel. Fifty Shades of Grey is not.

Finally, I’d like to demystify word count/book length. Authors frequently talk about the length of their books in terms of how many words it is. But how many pages is that? The problem is that the number of pages varies depending on the physical dimensions of a print book, the font size, and leading (space between the lines).  A paperback, large trade paperback, and hardback will all have different pages lengths. And an ebook? There is no page length. So word count is a more accurate measure of book length. But readers think in terms of pages. So how do you get a gauge of length?

By converting word length to manuscript pages or how the work would appear on 8 ½ by 11 inch paper. One manuscript page holds 250 words. So divide the number of words by 250 to get the number of pages.

10K ÷ 250 = 40 pages (novelette)

30K ÷250= 120 pages (novella)

50K ÷ 250 = 200 pages (novel)

What other author terms you would like demystified?

 

 

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Guest post: Livia Grant on BDSM, infidelity and Wanting it All

Wanting It All cover 500x755I’m happy today to host Livia Grant with her debut BDSM novel, Wanting it All.  Livia tackles some taboos in her first book–I can wait to read it.

Livia Grant is Feeling Like a Virgin

By Livia Grant

I want to thank Cara Bristol for letting me guest here on her blog.  It’s been a long time since I’ve felt virginal, but that’s my impression of these past few weeks, metaphorically speaking of course.  I am, after all, an erotic romance author who’s having the time of my life going through the process of getting my first book, Wanting it All, published. As I brainstormed ideas for this first post-published blog post, the comparisons to losing one’s virginity could not be ignored.  Do these sound familiar?

1) Once I’ve taken the plunge, there’s no going back. -  Yep, there will be no un-ringing this bell.   As anxious as we all might be for that first time of anything, if you’re like me, there’s that small let down after when you realize something you’ve looked so forward to is over.  As authors, we can only hope the realities of publishing outshine our dreamlike fantasies of being an author.

 2) Am I doing the right thing? – Taking the leap into publishing erotic romances is not for the faint of heart.  It’s not only putting your writing out for inspection, but more importantly, those fragile thoughts floating through your brain that you’ve captured and wrangled into a book.  I suspect I’m not the only erotic romance author to question their sanity at diving into publishing.

3) Performance anxiety – Do I have what it takes?  Are they going to laugh at me? Will readers hate it?  In this respect, publishing that first book is a bit like making your first time with the football team.  Each of them get to form their own opinions on your performance and you hope they don’t try to humiliate you when it’s over.

4) Fanatic Adoration -  So, unless you lost your virginity to a celebrity, this one may be a stretch, but the fact that I am posting this blog on Cara Bristol’s website is a huge fan moment for me.  I’ve been lurking, following not only Cara, but dozens of talented authors in social media for years.  I’m the newbie among the professionals and am overwhelmed by the support I’m receiving with my virgin release.

Time to talk about my story.  Wanting it All is the first in the four book Passion Series.  Book two, Securing it All is due out in September and book three, Having it All later this fall.  The release date is still TBD for Protecting it All, book four.

I took a few chances and broke a few well-established publishing rules when I wrote my series.  For one thing, the books follow more than one couple and are about a whole cast of friends. The friendships are rich and add a layer of complexity and reality to the series that I feel other books sometimes lack.  Another key differentiator is that this book takes on the taboo topic of infidelity and how a marriage can fight back from the unforgivable.  The first half of Wanting it All in particular is not for the faint of heart as there are some very edgy scenes that border on non-consensual, but readers who stick with me will be rewarded with a very rich character driven story with multiple HEA’s.   There is a strong BDSM theme throughout the entire series but the story is as much about the psychology behind people’s desires for domination and submission as it is the physical sexual activities.

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Brianna Lambert has it all. After escaping an abusive ex-Dom, she has the good fortune to find and marry the love of her life. Markus’ gentle and devoted love has helped her put the pieces of her life back together. There’s only one problem. As the years go by, Brianna finds herself missing the excitement of the BDSM lifestyle. If only she could talk to her gentle husband about her secret desire to be dominated in the bedroom, but as a submissive, she finds she can’t make the words come. 

When her ex-Dom resurfaces in her life, the flames of lost desire are reignited, leading Brianna to made a decision with shattering consequences. 

As Brianna’s best friend, Tiffany O’Sullivan understands and even shares Brianna’s hidden desire for a alpha male to protect, cherish and punish her when she’s earned it. Still, Tiff is furious when Bri puts her life and marriage at risk for a fling with her abusive ex. 

When Brianna disappears, Tiff tracks her down at a local BDSM club where Markus has sent his wayward wife to atone for her infidelity at the hands of his own best friend – club owner, Master Lukus Mitchell. Tiff may go to The Punishment Pit to rescue her best friend, but quickly finds she may need rescuing herself after encountering the Master’s Master. And when Markus is again ready to confront his wayward wife he, too, must come to terms with a secret past. 

Wanting It All explores the delicate balance of dominance and submission as well as the importance of trust and communication within D/s relationships with a story that features believable characters along with explicit, no-holds-barred acts of sexual dominance and submission, as well as domestic discipline. 

In one extraordinary weekend, four best friends are thrown into circumstances that force them to open old wounds and dig deep to discover what they really need to make them happy in life. 

If you’re looking for a book featuring explicit, intimate, and heartfelt look into the physical and psychological attraction of BDSM, this is the one book you must put on your reading list.

 Wanting it All Excerpt

Brianna’s heart is breaking. Witnessing Markus’ pain is her final undoing. The fact that he could walk out and leave her here tells her that she has truly lost him. She knows she should be afraid of what’s to come, but on another level she welcomes the pain she knows she’s about to receive. She deserves it.

She slowly looks up until her gaze falls upon the haunting dark eyes of her captor.

“I have some really bad news for you, sweetheart,” he says. “Markus is my friend – a very old friend. I owe him big time. So here’s how this is going to go. I’m going to take you down to that stage. And once we’re there, I’m going to make you wish you had never been born.”

When Brianna refuses to break his gaze, his grim scowl turns into an evil smile. “I see. So you think I’m bluffing? You don’t believe me?”

After several more seconds of their showdown, Brianna finally answers in a defeated tone. “Oh, I believe you. I just don’t care. I deserve everything you’re going to give me and more. You were right. I had it all, and I threw it all away. If I’ve lost Markus, then there’s nothing you can do that will hurt worse than that.” She continues to stare at him defiantly when it hits her. “So your name is Lukus? As in the Lukus he just won a case for today?”

Lukus smirks. “So now you understand just how much I owe him. The ironic thing is tonight was meant to be a celebration for me and Derek and Markus. Instead, you had to go and let someone stick his dick in you and break my friend’s heart. I almost feel sorry for you,Brianna. I’m not the kind of man you want to make angry. But I am angry, and this is personal. You hurt my friend. I’m going to hurt you… bad.”

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#8Sunday, Saturday Spankings: More from Warrior…

Coming in the fall 2014-- Warrior (Breeder 3), the end of the trilogy.

Coming in the fall 2014– Warrior (Breeder 3), the end of the trilogy.

Greetings weekend hoppers! I’m continuing with excerpts from Warrior, the third Breeder sci-fi romance. It’s been submitted to Loose Id, and I am waiting to hear back.

A little background on the snippet: Anika’s brother, who holds authority over her, intends for her to become another Alpha’s breeder. He does not know that Anika has been involved in a clandestine relationship with Urazi, his beta (former partner). Distraught over the turn of events, Anika runs to Urazi, hoping he will save her. This is Urazi’s reaction (and POV):

“Alpha Marlix has made a wise decision. Commander Ilian is kind. To become his—” he broke off, unable to force breeder and its connotation` past his lips—” to serve in his household is a great honor for a female.”

Anika worked her mouth. “That is all you have to say?” She stared at him, her eyes huge in her face.

Urazi blinked to avoid embarrassing himself. “I wish you many sons.”

Unofficial Warrior blurb

A female fighting for freedom. A male armed with determination. Can they save their people?

As a despotic Qalin marches through Parseon intent on conquering every province, Commander Marlix pledges his sister to another Alpha to protect her. Desperate to decide her own fate, Anika flees and finds refuge with the guerilla resistance movement against Qalin. Marlix’s beta Urazi, a male of lesser status, tracks her intending to bring her home to fulfill her duty. But when love blossoms between them, and provinces fall to Qalin, Anika and Urazi realize home has ceased to exist and they alone are all that stand between the people of Parseon and the end of the world.

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Guest blog: Rollin Hand and The Princess and the Outlaw

By Rollin Hand

I’m here today on Cara Bristol’s blog to talk about my latest book. Thanks, Cara, for the opportunity to tell everyone about The Princess and the Outlaw.

Pand O cover smallThe Princess and the Outlaw is a swashbuckling tale set in an imaginary medieval kingdom. The story is about an attempt by villainous conspirators to murder the king, Robert Greystone, and usurp the crown. In order to do this, they devise a plan to kidnap the king’s only child, his daughter Princess Juliet, and replace her with an imposter. This leads to a role swap by the female leads reminiscent of Mark Twain’s The Prince and the Pauper, as Scarlett, an orphan girl is substituted for the princess.

Here is the blurb:

Treachery is abroad in the land, and the kingdom’s royal princess is on the run, torn away from the pampered life she has always known. Her only salvation lies with a notorious outlaw in the depths of a dark forest. Though she is accustomed to giving commands rather than obeying them, the princess soon learns that in this outlaw’s realm disobedience brings swift chastisement. But to the amazement of the princess, this roughhewn rogue’s affront to her royal person fans flames of desire which threaten to burn out of control.

At the palace the princess once called home, an imposter sits on the throne, an orphan convinced by the evil Red Countess that what she does is for the good of the kingdom. Even as the peasant learns to play the role of a princess, doubts surface in her heart and she begins to question everything she has been told. When a visiting knight starts to ask the same questions, she wonders if he can be trusted, but she quickly discovers that whether she trusts him or not, he is more than ready to compel her cooperation with a firm hand applied to her bare bottom.

The courage and wits of all four—the princess, the orphan, the outlaw, and the knight—will be needed to overcome the dark shadow imperiling the kingdom, for danger lurks at every turn and the wrath of the Red Countess will surely fall upon those who oppose her plans.

Publisher’s Note: The Princess and the Outlaw is an erotic novel that includes spankings, anal play, sexual scenes, exhibitionism, elements of BDSM, and more. If such material offends you, please don’t buy this book.

The Princess and the Outlaw excerpt

Hours later, she awoke. From the light it looked like midday. Her core was now well warmed, and she bathed languidly in the heat radiating from her protector’s body. Part of her wanted to stay this way forever and never move. But alert now, she became aware of his touch. Roland was half asleep and his hands moved across the front of her body, brushing the nipples of her breasts. He shifted slightly and she felt a length of hardness pushing into the split between the cheeks of her buttocks. An insistent pulse arose from somewhere deep inside her. A curious wetness seeped between her legs. She rubbed herself against him and a surge of pleasure shot through her.  She realized she wanted this man. She wanted him now. She wanted him in the way a woman wants a man. The pulse was growing stronger. Her body throbbed with desire. Resolving to deny herself no longer, she twisted her body around until she was facing Roland. At that moment his eyes fluttered open.

“Are you …?” he started to say.

“Sh-h-h,” whispered Scarlett. She pressed her lips to his, lightly at first, then hard. Her mouth opened and her tongue flicked against his lips. When his mouth yielded in response, his tongue sought hers. Scarlett pressed her breasts against his chest. Roland reciprocated by tightening his arms around her shoulders, drawing her into an ever more intimate embrace. His hands thrilled her as they roved gently down the length of her body, touching here, caressing there. She winced as he squeezed her bottom. He felt her body react and he stroked her gently there.

“We’ll get some witch hazel for that,” he murmured.

“I don’t care,” said Scarlett. “I just want you. I want you inside me.”

Scarlett shifted so that she lay beneath him. She opened her legs. Roland took a hand away to make an adjustment to his clothing and she felt his hardness. She explored beneath the blanket with her hand and grasped his maleness, eliciting a low moan of pleasure from Roland. Hitching herself up, she guided it between her legs until the head was at the entrance to her womanly portal.

“Now. Now,” she whispered.

The man needed no further urging. With one hand beneath her he pushed his hips forward. She felt the length of him sliding in and she threw her head back, marveling at the surge of intense pleasure she felt. He didn’t stop until he was inside her to the hilt. He began to grind his hips in tiny movements that generated a delicious friction and she moaned. Scarlett gave herself to him completely. He could do anything he wanted.

He withdrew part way, then thrust. Then again and again. It was slow at first, a sort of ecstatic torture for Scarlett, but in moments she was lost in a delirium of pleasure that flowed over her in waves, each one bigger than the last. The thrusts came faster and harder. Scarlett’s body reacted, moving to the rhythm he established. Soon they were locked in that ancient dance, their bodies slapping together in wild synchronization. His eyes found hers and he gazed into them intently as if trying to read her responses to his lovemaking. But Scarlett was gone. The things he was doing to her. While his erection created surges of pleasure, his fingers squeezed her nipples and he smothered her neck with kisses. Finally she could stand no more and something burst inside her. It rose then crested like the largest wave of all, breaking over her in an all-consuming, thundering crash of passion. She felt Roland’s pace quicken, too, until his body went stiff, every muscle straining as his hips jerked wildly and the warmth of his seed flooded her.

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Spotlight on Thianna D’s Breathe Each Other In

BEOTI-Final-300x500The spotlight today is o, Breathe Each Other In, an M/M domestic discipline romance by Thiana D. For Logan & Christian, one thing makes all the difference…

Breathe Each Other In

Author: Thianna D

3rd in the All They Ever Needed trilogy

Where to find it:

On Thianna’s website 

Or: Amazon | Blushing Books | Barnes and Noble

Goodreads link

Marketing copy:

While the outside world might try to undermine them, Logan and Christian’s relationship just grows stronger. In this, the final part of the All They Ever Needed trilogy, their lives take an unexpected turn.

Christian takes to heart everything he learns from Logan’s father and as he and Logan go forward in their DD relationship, he finds that he is willing to not just take on the mantle of Head of House, but to embrace it. With Logan graduating from college, Christian takes the next logical step and asks his boyfriend to move in.

Even with the stress of student teaching and trying to figure out what to do after graduation, Logan leaps at the chance to live with the man he loves. As the pressure of graduation begins to get to him, the only thing to keep him grounded is the amazing man at his side.

Those closest to them make huge changes in their own lives and when an unexpected job offer lands in Logan’s lap, the two have to make a life altering decision. No matter which way they go, they need to give something up. Play it safe and stay home or accept the job and move away from their families? When it comes to decision time, there is one thing they are not willing to part with. That one thing makes all the difference in the world.

All They Ever Needed trilogy:

Book 1: As Natural As Breathing

Book 2: Took My Breath Away

Book 3: Breathe Each Other In

Enjoy this little domestic discipline discussion between Christian and Logan’s father:

“Have you considered how you are going to start?” Gregory asked as they removed the last of the destroyed siding from his car.

“Start what?” Christian asked, his mind on the large piece of scrap metal in his hands.

“Your DD relationship with my son.”

Surprised, Christian placed the metal onto the heap and shook his head. “No. He won’t be home until June, so I figured we had plenty of time to figure that out.”

“True,” he said, walking around the car. “On the other hand, if you start before he comes home, you might find it easier to settle into your role.”

Well, there was a layer he hadn’t considered. “How do you do it long distance?” The confusion in his voice was evident, even to him. But Gregory never made him feel stupid for asking a question.

“It’s doing the same things. Setting boundaries and making sure he sticks to them. You will also want to choose a disciplinary action to use if he doesn’t.”

“What am I supposed to do, make him write lines?” Christian asked in amusement before remembering that Kimberley had mentioned she had to write lines a lot in the beginning of her and Gregory’s marriage.

“Possibly. Or make him stand in a corner and think about what he did.”

“How will I know he did it?”

“You stay on the phone with him. Believe me. Neither Kim nor Logan are good at covering their emotions. His voice will give him away. Plus, I know my son. If you tell him to stand in a corner, he might ask why, but if you insist, he’ll do it. Of course, you won’t see the glare he sends at the phone when he does so,” he added in amusement.

Spluttering a laugh, Christian walked over and crashed onto one of the sofas. “It all seems so simple and so impossibly difficult at the same time.”

“Yep. Both are true. And strangely enough, until you actually have to discipline him for something and he accepts it, you won’t really notice a difference. It will feel like you’re going through the motions. But that moment will come where you go, ‘ah, shit, I’m in charge.’ And it will change you in a really valid way. You’ll feel it, Logan will feel it, and your relationship will be better for it even though it felt like hell for those few minutes or hours.” Walking over, Gregory grabbed a couple sodas from the fridge and tossed him one. “And at the beginning you’ll second guess yourself a lot, Christian. It comes with the territory. But that first time the two of you butt heads?” He shook his head. “That moment when you wonder if you should continue down this road or give in? When you stick to your guns, not in a rough, mean way, but by continually plowing ahead, gently but firmly until he relents; that’s the moment you know what you got yourself into. And it feels amazing and a bit overwhelming. But most of all, it just feels right.”

Shaking his head, Christian drank half his soda quickly. “I think we’re on the right road and Logan is thrilled, but I’ve never done this before and—”

“Haven’t you?” he asked in amusement. “I saw you with my son in New York, Christian. You took control and you guided him out of his self-recrimination faster than I could have.”

“He still had you spank him.” The moment the words were out of his mouth, Christian regretted them. He never meant to bring them up, especially in that annoyed tone.

Chuckling, Gregory nodded as he leaned back. “Yes, I did. Do you know why?”

“He explained that he asked you to.”

“He did, and the two of you hadn’t gotten to the point where he could ask you.”

Startled, Christian looked up at him.

“Logan needed to let that go and I was the only one he thought could take that pain away. Believe me, Christian, those thoughts are changing. He sees you more as head of his house than he even did a couple months ago and he’s quite happy to have you do it. No matter if his ass gets paddled for it or not.”

ThiannaD_NewAvatarAbout the author:

Thianna D is a writer of both het and m/m erotic romance. Most of her works include BDSM or DD. Logan and Christian brought together the domestic discipline way of life, spanking in an erotic context, and two amazing characters she loves very much. It is difficult to say goodbye to them as this is the final book in the trilogy. Thankfully she has a list of books she’s writing – that should help.

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Taming the email monster…

Computer VirusVictory! Last week I cleaned out my email inbox. I had email dating back to May. To some authors, that won’t sound like a long time, but for me it is because I don’t like clutter. I dislike opening up my email and seeing hundreds of emails. It makes it harder to find things, costs time, and slows my ability to respond to messages.

Although I always vow that I will keep my inbox clean, invariably the emails pile up because before too long something happens (life!) that prevents me from dealing with email for a day or two and then whamo! Hundreds. I cringe when I receive an email from my publisher that a new author has been signed because that means that shortly I will receive a barrage of email from my fellow authors who have clicked “reply all” to say “welcome.”

I try to deal with actionable items as they occur but while they are important, they sometimes are not as urgent as something else I might be working on, and I try to prioritize my tasks in a way that makes sense.

But my inbox is clean now. And I vow to keep it that way from now on! (Ha ha ha ha).

This is my process for both “spring” and “daily” inbox cleaning:

  • I usually delete without reading any email notifications that someone has liked or repinned a Pinterest pins, has retweeted a tweet, or has followed me on Twitter. I used to look at them all, but I don’t have the time anymore. Not only that—reading them puts me too close to the vortex, and it’s too easy to get sucked into Pinterest or Twitter. Once in a while I will look at one or two at random.
  • I star (flag) any emails that are super important or that I know I will be referring to a lot. This saves me a huge amount of time. Even when my inbox gets cluttered, this is a time-saver.
  • I read, then delete any Facebook mentions, chatty emails from friends, and any minor business matters.
  • I only save those emails that I either need to act on—or that contain information that might be useful to me in the future. Once I’ve acted on an email, unless it contains information I need, I delete it.
  • If there is an conversational thread involving a project, I try to save only the email with the most salient info. I don’t feel the need to keep a dozen emails that say, “Good, idea Bob!”
  • I move emails that I need to save into folders. I have a folder for each book I’ve written, one for guest blogs , one for reviews, one for my street team. I also create “ad hoc” folders for short special projects (for instance a blog hop) and then delete all the emails and the folder when the project is finished.

What are your tips for controlling email?

 

 

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Saturday Spankings, #8Sunday: A revealing moment from Warrior…

How do you show the effect society has on its people? In small, revealing moments. Like this one from Warrior, the third and final book in the Breeder sci-fi romance series. We are in the hero’s POV (Urazi):

Coming in the fall 2014-- Warrior (Breeder 3), the end of the trilogy.

Coming in the fall 2014– Warrior (Breeder 3), the end of the trilogy.

Her teeth flashed white in a tremulous smile, then she scooted upwards, and ran her hand over the lightscan. The room remained shrouded. She waved again.

They always engaged in their perversions cloaked by darkness. Though unlikely Marlix or Tara would investigate, he had no desire for his shameful transgressions to be discovered.

“Leave it,” he said.

“I wish to see your face.” Anika persisted and palmed the lightscan again.

“You do not have authorization to turn the lights on in my chamber,” he explained.

Warrior has been submitted to Loose Id. I anticipate publication in the fall.

Warrior blurb

A female fighting for freedom. A male armed with determination. Can they save their people?

As a despotic Qalin marches through Parseon intent on conquering every province, Commander Marlix pledges his sister to another Alpha to protect her. Desperate to decide her own fate, Anika flees and finds refuge with the guerilla resistance movement against Qalin. Marlix’s beta Urazi, a male of lesser status, tracks her intending to bring her home to fulfill her duty. But when love blossoms between them, and provinces fall to Qalin, Anika and Urazi realize home has ceased to exist and they alone are all that stand between the people of Parseon and the end of the world.

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