Writing one sex scene isn’t tough. Writing several per book and making them sound different can be a bit of challenge. Write multiple books and after a while, you might notice that your couples are doing the same thing in the same way. Yep, like real life, your sex scenes have become a tad predictable.
How do you write fresh sex scenes time after time?
Tip no. 1 – make the sex about something other than sex
In many romances the sex is just sex. The author writes the story and then decides she needs to add a sex scene or adds sex scenes to boost the word count. That’s the problem. Don’t do that. If your characters are motivated to have sex for reasons other than sex the scenes will turn out different naturally because emotions direct their behavior.
For example, if your hero is a womanizer and she’s been resistant to his charms, when he finally scores, his sexual behavior will be different than when he realizes what an ass he’s been and that he’s fallen in love with her. Sex can be motivated by insecurity, guilt, jealousy, love, hatred, anger, manipulation, fear, a need to dominate, a need to give up control, the desire to maintain control. Driven by emotion, sexual behavior will vary. What they do in bed is very much affected by what goes on outside of bed.
Before you write a sex scene figure out why your characters are having sex. It should be more than simple lust.
Tip no. 2 – Take it out of the bedroom.
If you put your character in an unusual location, it will force them to contend with obstacles that will affect their sexual behavior. For instance, if they’re having sex in the car in a parking lot, they will have work around a tight space (no pun intended), the steering wheel, the gear shift, and the possibly of being watched/and or getting caught. If they’re in a swimming pool, you have the effects of buoyancy, the effects of cold water on the body, the challenge of performing without drowning.
For more tips, check out Naughty Words for Nice Writers, a thesaurus and sex scene writing guide.