In 2 1/2 years, I’ll “celebrate” a major milestone birthday. An epic, cataclysmic, confidence-rocking birthday. Because I don’t like to procrastinate, I’ve already started preparing for it.
I’m having my mid-crisis now. I mean, why wait?
I am feeling my mortality. I can’t even say the number I’m facing. I will officially be–I can’t bring myself to publicly finish that statement.
“Age is just a number.” That was easier to believe when the number I was looking at was a lot lower.
Knock on wood, I’m healthy. I’m height-weight proportionate. Most people would say I don’t look my age. But when I look in the mirror, I see new wrinkles, and, oh-my-god, age spots. My body is “softer” than it used to be; pants that still fit now give me a muffin top. My lips are thinner than they used to be. My eyebrows have gray hairs. I’ll stop the list here because it’s too depressing…
As is typical with me, when I am in the middle of a life crisis, it manifests in two areas: my hair and my clothing. I’ve been seriously considering a drastic hairstyle change, going from long hair to a pixie or maybe a short bob. But I’ve decided to hold off, because short styles are what “women my age” usually go for. To me, it would be conceding: “I’m old.” I think my hair still looks good, so I’ll keep it for as long as I can carry it off. Or not. I don’t know…
But my wardrobe and closet will be getting a major overhaul. I’ve decided that I may be “old,” but I can still look nice, and it’s time to shake things up a bit. (Just a bit).
I’ve always leaned toward “classic” rather than “trendy,” but there’s a fine line between classic and boring, and I may have crossed it. It doesn’t help that I work from home and don’t need a lot of “nice” clothes. Or that I work long hours and rarely go shopping at brick-and-mortar stores. I feel like a stranger in a strange land when I do venture into the mall.
I need to break out of my rut and build a look, a style that suits me, a look that I will be comfortable wearing, but that’s a little more fashionable.
I read The Smart Woman’s Guide to Style & Clothing, a Step-by-Step Process for Creating the Perfect Wardrobe by Kara Lane. I’m using it as my guide to build my new wardrobe. According to the author, women don’t wear 80 percent of their clothes. I didn’t think that was the case with me, but I analyzed my closet, and realized, it’s probably 50 percent. A lot of what I have is old, or I don’t like the stuff anymore, or I don’t feel good wearing the items anymore.
So, over the next year, I’ll be purging my closet and replacing the items with quality clothing I love. My goal is to own fewer clothes but have everything work together so that I have more complete outfits. When I worked in the corporate world, I had business clothes, at-home clothes, and a small selection of dressy clothes. However, I’ve always lacked nice casual clothes, and my plan is to build up that part of my wardrobe.
I want a good base of neutrals, supplemented with some trendier, fun items and more accessories. From now on, when I buy an article of clothing, it must meet two criteria: do I love it (not just like it, but love it) and does it go with what I already have?
In conjunction with my wardrobe overall, I’m organizing my closet. I’m very fortunate to have a large walk-in closet that I don’t share with anyone (my husband has his own closet), and I’m going to organize it functionally and keep it neat to show off my new wardrobe. It will be a dressing room in addition to being a closet.
I will still be old, but I’m going to be dressed very nice.
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I was inspired to overhaul my closet by actress Heather Dubrow (formerly of Real Housewives of Orange County) who has a fabulous, amazing closet. Seriously, it looks like a boutique. She does a You Tube show, Heather’s Closet, from her closet. My closet will never be anything close to that grand–nor will it have its own show–but it’s still a better-than-average closet.
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Have you ever had a mid-life crisis? What did you do to pull yourself out of it?