Guest blog: Why We Read Those Forbidden Words…

By Tonya Kinzer

Since I love the Dom/sub, soft bondage and BDSM erotica, I think that is perfect to discuss here today! Those topics appeal to readers because first, they are taboo and people love to read what shouldn’t be written. Better yet is the internal ecstasy the reader gets while they read those forbidden words that create even more forbidden thoughts! No it’s not a sin to feel that way, so stop it! (it is a sin to force those feelings on someone who doesn’t share that with you) It’s a beautiful feeling that can be satisfied by touching another individual, feeling the moisture on their skin, the increased heart rate, the darkening of their eyes as their pupils enlarge with the intense feelings and the smell that emanates from the body! Now where did I put that ice bag?

Do you fall into that category? I sure hope so. Sneaking to read some of our books is part of the fun, not to mention the internal upheaval that goes on while we read. Our imaginations create vivid images of naked bodies; of women restrained while others torture their sexual needs and take them to the brink of orgasm! Oops, can I say that here? Too late now…it’s out, so let’s discuss that, too!

First, I’m going back to the images that reading creates in our mind as well as our own growing need to have sex while we read or immediately afterward. The body heat intensifies, our juices begin to flow, some a bit more than others, we start to fidget in our chair or on the bed. This brings us to the one-handed readers and we know what they do! *wink*  mmmm….damn! Perhaps more of you are one-handed readers than we know about! As authors, we LOVE that group!

Now let’s move on to what some like to read about. Our mind goes crazy at the thought of a naked woman…or man…being tied to a table or a bed or over the horse as her Dom slowly touches her body everywhere. She’s forbidden to speak or whimper a sound. His touch is light, teasing, tormenting, making her want that powerful release that explodes in her body, heats and satisfies, yet creates an even stronger need for more. He caresses her skin with oil, massaging her breasts, her thighs and….yep he goes there too, only to feel how much of her juices have seeped for him.

Do I have your attention yet? Take those feelings and put them to work in your own relationship and make your partner feel as though they are the only one in your universe. Some of us have lost that spark but it can be relit. You have the power to create those same sensations in their body. Pay attention to what touch makes them crazy and where that area is because it’s different for each one of us. As their excitement increase, so will yours…because you know you have created a need in them that has to be completed and only YOU can do that. Go for it! Give your partner the pleasure they deserve and in turn, you receive more pleasure, I promise you! Maybe they secretly want the same thing but have been afraid to let you know. Break the ice…you may be pleasantly surprised!

I hope you take the time to check out my series, titled The Boss’s Pet. I do include loving relationships along with adventure into unknown territory for my heroine. Follow her and she just might help YOU open yourself up to ask for what you want in a relationship. I have a hot excerpt (  from book three, Sharing Among Friends, on my website ( ) as well as the book trailer for the series. It gives you a taste of what may be coming up in book four, coming soon to an eStore near you! Thank you for stopping in and I hope you continue to enjoy those forbidden reads! Muah!

Their Submissive Switch Excerpt

Forcing herself to remove her bra and panties, she knew she needed to change into her leather corset, fishnets, gloves and black heels. The feel of the warm leather against her skin made her feel so sexy, knowing Nick loved seeing her breasts protruding from the nipple holes in the bra. Even now, her nipples hardened as she tweaked them the same way her Master would; she squeezed them as hard and as long as she could manage, knowing it helped her endure what he would do.

Pleasing Him got her so excited; she loved posing in the positions He described for her, like tonight…how long would she have to be on her hands and knees waiting until He came through the door?

She collected her tweezer nipple clamps with the red feathers, the new flogger, ball gag, her largest vibrator and her wet thong, and then sauntered out to His end table. With careful attention, she displayed the items in the order He would want each of them. She knew her wet thong would be first; He’d pick it up, hold it to His nose and breathe in her musky scent. Men loved the smell of damp thongs! Next would be her nipple clamps, then the ball gag, flogger and vibrator.

Quickly, Sondra went to the kitchen for His glass of Single Barrel Jack Daniels and poured it over ice, taking it back to His end table.

Then she glanced at the clock.

Five minutes to spare.

Carefully, she got on her hands and knees in front of His chair with her back to his view…or rather, her ass. She spread her knees as far apart as she could handle, then balanced herself on her forearms, palms up, forehead to the carpet…and waited, listening.

The carpet tickled her hard nipples; her own punishment.

The garage door sounded and her heart began to race, knowing soon she’d hear His footsteps in the kitchen. He’d probably be able to smell her scent even from that distance.

The back door closed ever so quietly.

Blood pounded in her ears. Even for as long as they’d been doing this, each time was like the first time. The excitement sparked along her nerves and made her juices flow before she was ready.


His keys hit the table by the back door.

His footsteps sounded softly on the kitchen tile as he made his way toward her.

Slow deep breaths still didn’t calm her racing heart. She wanted whatever Her Master had in mind for her. Pleasing Him was priority number one.

Suddenly His footsteps stopped at His chair and He groaned aloud. She knew that satisfied groan of His. As He moved to sit down, His shoe bumped the toe of her high heels, causing her to jump and she waited for Nick to scold her but nothing came of it.

The ice in His drink sounded as He took a sip. She imagined the amber liquid seeping over His tongue and she wanted so bad to taste that right now, but…He knew that. He knew she loved the taste of Single Barrel, the smooth burn, the cool feel of his tongue as He swirled it over hers.

Waiting seemed the hardest part but moving before He gave her permission would bring on the flogger and she wasn’t ready for that just yet.

“Tip your hips more, slut….that’s it. Gawd I love seeing you like this…your knees so far apart that it separates your lips and cheeks to show me exactly what I rushed home to see.”

The ice in His glass sounded again and she wanted a taste so bad.

Suddenly icy cold hit her lower back, tracing even lower and she gritted her teeth, feeling the melting ice trickle down between her cheeks, over her hot pussy but she knew not to moan.

“The red welts on your ass will recede in a day or so…unless you require more this evening.”

He groaned again and she imagined his gaze taking in the red welts against her milky white skin, making them appear more prominent.

“I can see your nipples love the rough carpet. That should harden them for the clamps later.”

She heard him place something on the floor between her feet.

“Reach your hand back for me and take up that huge vibrator. With as wet as you appear to be, it should slip in with ease. I want to watch.”

He couldn’t be serious? Her fingers couldn’t even wrap around the entire thing!

Tonya’s Bio

 Tonya Kinzer is a self-published erotic romance author whose books are quickly climbing the charts at Amazon and Barnes & Noble. If you’re looking for a romance with a little more spice than the average hot read, you won’t want to miss taking a look at her work. She writes erotic romance for readers who love to become a silent character within the story! You will be pulled into scenes to partake of the activities along the lines of soft bondage and Dom/sub relationships, to feel what her characters feel and taste what they taste…strong sexual desires much like your own! Be prepared to enter a world you’ll not want to leave and can’t wait to get back to…worlds where new submissives and demanding Doms entice you to read more!

Her series, The Boss’s Pet, will take you on a journey alongside Nick and Sondra as they venture into a lifestyle that pulls them deeper into a world of sensuality and submission. You’ll not want to miss any of the books in this series so stay locked on her website to know when the next books get released.

When she isn’t writing, she’s the pet for her own Boss, where she works a few days a week. Her day job is seasonal so this allows her to write during the off season as well as design covers, websites, and promo items. She also enjoys helping other authors where she can with their editing and being a critique partner when time allows.

       Bk 1 – The Contract    Bk 2 – Office Training   Bk 3 – Sharing Among Friends   Bk 4 – Their Submissive Switch 

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13 Responses to Guest blog: Why We Read Those Forbidden Words…

  1. Tonya Kinzer says:

    CONTEST: On Jan 8th, one lucky commenter will be picked to win a $15 GC from Amazon, B & N, or All Romance book bucks!! Please leave your email addy so I can contact the winner and also where you’d like the gift card from IF you are the winner.

    Cara, thank you so much for having me today! I appreciate the opportunity to chat with your readers!

    Readers, thank you for stopping in to check me out. Please visit my website to read more about the first three books and watch the book trailer for the series. I’ll stop back in throughout each day to chat with you so please leave your comments here and you just might get picked to win! Who wants a gift card??

  2. Naomi says:

    What a great article. I totally agree when you talk of the guilt complex over reading things more risque than the norm. How many of us have sneaked around the shelves in a library or bookshop. Only to search out the books and with the ‘dirty words’ in them. So we can pore over them with our friends. Guily as charged!
    Well done! Loved reading this.

  3. I want to win! 🙂 Cause I want your books! lol. WHEN I win I would like it from Amazon.

    Yes I am just that cocky at the moment (normally I’m not).

    To be honest…your books give me ideas to give to certain …..”friends” I “hang out” with. 😀 lmao.

    <3's and fangs,
    Liz ^_^

  4. Tanya, you hit the nail on the head when you said we writers love our one handed readers. I am a one handed reader myself. When my books first started selling I had to smile at the thought of the people (hopefully both genders) getting themselves off as they read the words I wrote, shared the images I’d created. It’s one of the really satisfying things about writing erotica. Stephan King can provoke a nightmare or two, but I love that we erotica writers have people actually cumming as they read our work.

    The other aspect of your article that I wanted to comment on is the aspect of reading something that is taboo. I did a post on my blog about something I’ve been thinking about lately with regard to my characters and my attitude toward them, but I think it goes for reading erotica too. I think one of the things people want is permission and acceptance of who they are and how they feel. If they can read about someone expressing something sexual, and our sexual natures are very much a part of who and what we are as human beings, they feel more permission to express themselves (sort of what you pointed out) and they feel more acceptance of themselves. It’s not only OK to want what you want (assuming you don’t hurt anyone else–unless they want a little pain–smirk), but it’s really something that lies in a realm beyond judgement. We don’t have any business, as human beings, judging each other’s journeys through life, and particularly not something so personal as what gets us off sexually. When people read our erotica, they know they’re not alone in their wants and desires and if it gives them permission to be more true to themselves, that can only enhance their lives.

    Thanks for the interesting article!

  5. Tonya Kinzer says:

    Naomi, Liz and Matt, thanks so much for stopping in and best – for agreeing with the article! *wink* I love that erotica allows me to write what I want others to experience. Being an historical romance reader from way back, there are still boundaries within that genre that you can’t cross and still get it published as ‘historical romance’. Now on the other hand, if you’re writing erotic historicals…the door is wide open to discuss what used to go on back then! *wicked laugh*

    Liz….thank you so much for your kind words about my books and I’m glad you enjoyed a bit of them so far! Muah!

  6. Jamie Salisbury says:

    A thought provoking article…I wonder if we’ll ever be able to cross the boundary lines. Sad. . . especially when they (the reader) really want to read the more explicit of the two (historical romance vs erotic historic romance). . .

  7. eden baylee says:

    Tonya, great post and hot excerpt.

    Taboo topics are wonderful for erotica because our minds run wild with what we don’t know. Being open to learning is the key, and reading certainly opens the doors.


  8. Tonya Kinzer says:

    Jamie and Eden, thank you for taking the time to stop by to read with us and for commenting! I appreciate the support. Partying with friends is always fun.

    Readers, I’ve loaded the ice bucket with a few bottles of Bailey’s – please help yourself to a glass or two….or three! *wink* *hiccup* oops, so unlady like! LOL

  9. Brenda Woody says:

    Pssst… I get to critique Tonya’s books *weg* Steve gets the benefits! LOL Trust me you want to read this series!
    We have a friend from HS that admitted she was a closet erotic reader. She asked us to never mention she reads our books. Well mum is the word for us, but it’s a shame she has to hide from her husband, family and friends, and can’t be open on what she reads and her desires.
    Don’t include me in the drawing – stopped by for support!

    • Cara Bristol says:

      There ought to be a national closet reader day — cause I’m sure there’s a lot of readers who read erotic romance and erotica on the sly!

  10. Tonya Kinzer says:

    Brenda, thank you so much for your edits and read-throughs you and Steve do for me! I love both of your comments as you do so…..but I’m NOT responsible for what goes on during your edits! You mentioned your friend hiding the fact that she reads our books and I would venture to guess that many keep us a secret. If they could only share the books with their partners, their sex lives just might get a bit of added spice and activity! Men, as well as women, need to be brave enough to talk about what they want…who knows, your partner just might be thinking they want the same things but are afraid to bring it up. Consider asking, people….you never know where it could go from here!

  11. Tonya Kinzer says:

    Congrats to Elizabeth K on being the lucky commenter for the $15 Amazon GC! It’ll be on it’s way soon so watch your email, liz!! Thank you, Cara, for having me and best of luck on the new release, hon! Readers, thank you all for stopping by. Visit my blog this week to help me celebrate the release of book 4 in The Boss’s Pet series! Thank you all, you guys rock! Muah!

  12. Fred Paxton says:

    The Office Pet rocks! Thanks for the wonderful writing. Thank the stars we are not in the Victorian age any longer!!!!

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