Once upon a time I was very secretive about my erotic romance writing career. I refused to reveal my pen name, my book titles, subgenre, or publisher. In fact, I did not tell my former neighbors my pen name until I just before I moved out of state.
Then I decided that it was hard to sell books if you didn’t tell people about them.
Much has changed in two years. I moved to a conservative state in the middle of the Bible Belt and boldly announced at a neighborhood Christmas party (the FIRST time I’d met any of my future new neighbors) that I wrote erotic romance. I learned later that they were all shocked. But they recovered.
But having them know in general what one writes differs from having them read your actual books.
The sex scenes (which is what we’re really talking about here which you’ve probably seen on websites similar to https://www.hdmmovies.xxx/) vary in intensity and in the nature of the specific acts in my ten books. Readers can encounter spanking, the use of sex toys – the likes of which you can find out more about on somewhere like KnownMan, exhibitionism, ménage à trois, and anal play and/or sex in my releases.
If someone I know personally says she wants to read my works, I suggest A Scent of Longing, my vampire romance, or Destiny’s Chance, a reincarnation romance, which are two of my least kinky titles. If they can handle those, then they can remove their training wheels and move up to some of the others.
One of my neighbors had expressed an interest in my books. A college instructor, she is very educated and speaks with perfect English. You will never hear a “gonna” or a “fuck” pass her lips. She and I often talk about our work as we walk together for exercise. I’d not seen her in a couple of weeks and when we finally got together for a walk, the conversation went like this:
Neighbor: I read your book.
Me: A Scent of Longing?
Me: Destiny’s Chance?
Neighbor: No. I don’t remember titles. It was the one with the newlyweds.
Me: Unexpected Consequences? *Mind racing* [Domestic discipline. The one with the spanking bench!]
Neighbor: That’s it. It was very well written. It opened my eyes.
Me: Thank you. [She read the one with the spanking bench!]
We proceeded to have a very nice conversation about domestic discipline. I know that what I write is not everyone’s cup of tea, but I am flattered that she was curious enough to seek out one of my books and that she liked my writing. She didn’t read the least kinky one of the bunch, but she didn’t read the kinkiest either.
I’d posted a little snippet about that conversation on Facebook and someone emailed me and asked me what my MOST kinky titles were. So, in ascending order of kinkiness from least to most, here is a list of my titles:
A Scent of Longing – a rather sweet story, contains basic M/F sex (For the record, don’t let the lack of kink deter you. Every author has her favorite “child” — this one is one of mine).
Wife on the Lam/Coming to Terms – M/F sex, basic domestic discipline OTK hand spanking (Wife on the Lam is my story in the Coming to Terms anthology. There are kinkier stories by other authors in the anthology).
Destiny’s Chance– contains M/F sex and erotic spanking and use of a tawse.
Reckless in Moonlight – M/F sex, anal play, light bondage, exhibitionism.
Unexpected Consequences (Rod and Cane 1), – M/F sex, domestic discipline spanking, use of a spanking bench & paddles. This is the book that started the Rod and Cane Society domestic discipline series.
False Pretenses ( Rod and Cane 2) – M/F sex; erotic, domestic discipline and public spanking; and use of spanking implements.
Body Politics (Rod and Cane 3) – M/F sex, domestic discipline spanking and “anal discipline.” This feminist v. dom is another of my favorite children.
Intimate Submission – M/F sex, the use of sex toys, spanking, and anal sex. This is the first erotic romance I ever wrote.
Disciplinary Measures (Rod and Cane 4) – M/F sex, anal sex, use of sex toys, domestic discipline spanking with a belt. The most erotic of all the Rod and Cane books — although they’re all hot.
Secret Desires – M/F and M/F/M ménage à trois, anal sex, spanking. A sexual smorgasbord!
How one defines kink is purely subjective, of course. Is anal sex more or less kinky than spanking, for instance?
What is interesting to me is that my least kinky book (A Scent of Longing) and my most kinky book (Secret Desires) are the two sales slackers.
I’ve grown so much more open about my work, but the coming out process has been gradual. I still encounter vestiges of embarrassment within myself, but the more open I am, the more comfortable I become. I’m proud of what write.
What was your experience when someone you know read your erotic fiction?