I’m a Cara Bristol. I’m a feminist, and I write about women being spanked. Not just erotic slap-and-tickle spankings, but disciplinary ones involving the husband punishing his wife for breaking a rule. One of his rules.
What century are we living in anyway?
Well, that’s the rub–often pointed out by readers/reviewers who pick up a contemporary spanking romance and then vehemently object to a modern female being disciplined by a man. Even a fictitious one who is a figment of the author’s imagination. DD offends their feminist sensibilities, their notions of equality, their sense of fair play.
And I get that. I understand their point of view. My younger self probably would have marched in protest right beside them. I’ll confess that DD would not work in my marriage. I cannot possibly conceive of situation in which I would allow DD, in which I would be taken in hand.
But there’s one key word in that last sentence: allow. You see, despite the lack of “safe words” in a DD relationship, it is still one of choice by both partners. The goal of feminism is to give women choice and control over their lives. If a woman chooses to be taken in hand by her HoH, she should have that right, That’s feminism.
Spanking romances play to fantasies of domination. It is fiction. No real women are spanked in domestic discipline fiction. Women should be free to explore their fantasies. No one should tell a woman how to think or how to feel. That’s feminism too.
It’s that simple.
Please check out the other authors participating in the Spanking Round Table discussion on domestic discipline and feminism.