Welcome to day 4 of the 2nd Annual Spanking A to Z blog challenge. Throughout June, spanking fiction authors will post a blog corresponding to a different letter of the alphabet, beginning with A and ending with Z. Many of the blogs, including mine, will focus on some aspect of spanking and/or the authors’ books, but you’ll also run across many random, but fun topics.
D is for discipline…
Discipline, n, 1. Punishment. 2. Training that corrects, molds or perfects the mental faculties or moral character. 3. Orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior. 4. Self-control.
In spanking romance “discipline” often is used in interchangeably with “punishment,” and often refers specifically to spanking. The goal is to change another person’s behavior. But discipline can refer to self-discipline. To self-control.
What does it mean to be disciplined?
- Making commitments to oneself and keeping them.
- Setting and achieving goals
- Not shirking one’s responsibilities or duties
- Performing to the utmost of one’s abilities
I like to think I’m disciplined. I do have goals and I strive to achieve them. I fulfill my responsibilities. Though I’m not a perfectionist, I try to do my best. For sure, I meet my deadlines. But sometimes, on occasion, I procrastinate (never to the point of missing a deadline though). Sometimes I don’t want to be shackled to my “to do” list. I am only “semi-organized.” I have a habit of not putting things away after I use them, which means I am frequently “tidying up” after myself because I do prefer things neat.
The upside of being disciplined is one is able to achieve more of what one wants. Moments and opportunities aren’t frittered away. The downside is that life can feel too regimented. It can feel like one is always doing what one “should” rather than what one wants (but I refer you back to the “upside”).
When I worked a newspaper reporter I interviewed a woman with 13 kids (most were adopted and she had a couple sets of twins). She had written a book about how to organize one’s home when you had a large family. The book was her personal survival guide. What sticks in my mind is that that she had her days divided into 15-minute increments with each quarter hour accounted for.
With 13 kids you would almost have to live that way to keep a grip on your sanity, but I wouldn’t want my life to be that disciplined.
What do you think about self-discipline? Do you consider yourself to be disciplined? Do you agree with my definitions?