Welcome to day 24 of the 2nd Annual Spanking A to Z blog challenge. Throughout June, spanking fiction authors have been blogging to a different letter of the alphabet, beginning with A and ending with Z. Many of the blogs, including mine, have focused on some aspect of spanking and/or the authors’ books, but there have also been many random, but fun topics.
X is for seX education
Like most teenagers, I was interested in sex long before I actually had it. My interest extended beyond libidinal preoccupation—I wanted to learn about sex, as many teens do. These days, many young people learn about sex through adult entertainment websites like teeni, which is an option that I never had back in my day.
Sure, I used to sneak a peek at the Playgirl magazines in the bookstore, and I managed to get my hands on a novel that would be considered erotica, but I sought to become informed, not just turned on.
(Note: I received zippo information from my parents. My mother felt that since she had signed the school sex education permission slips, she’d done her duty and was off the hook).
The first time I heard about oral sex was in an 8th grade program on VD. Our 25-year-old, blushing science teacher needed to convey that you could contract a sexually transmitted disease from giving a guy a blow job. Of course, BJ wasn’t the term she used.
I remember reading The Naked Ape by Desmond Morris, which examined sexual behavior from an anthropological/evolutionary perspective. I also remember hiding it under my mattress after my mother overheard me reading passages from the erotica novel to a friend and confiscated it. She asked if I had any similar material. I think I was about 13, maybe 14 at the time.
When I got into college, I took three human sexuality classes as electives thinking they would be interesting and easy As. Two were easy As; one, an upper division class geared for therapists, was not.
We learned about Alfred Kinsey’s and Masters and Johnson’s research, the four-stages of sexual response (which I included in Naughty Words for Nice Writers), sexual dysfunction, and genetic anomalies that affect sex.
In the very first sex class the professor uttered words that I’ve never forgotten: “Sex is easier to do than it is to talk about.” As an icebreaker he had us divide up into small groups and we were supposed to brainstorm as many words as we could think of for penis, vagina, and sexual intercourse. I remember a moment of dead silence during which we all stared at each other. Then one woman broke the ice with a synonym for penis (I don’t remember what it was). After a while, I think we started making words up.
We watched a lot of films. Two in particular come to mind: one of two gay guys having sex and another of an elderly couple having sex. We had many guest speakers including, a gay guy, a female-to-male transsexual, a quadriplegic, and a woman sex therapist/surrogate who would work with either sex.
I think what I learned most of all was an openness and acceptance of a wide variety of sexual behaviors. Some of these that could be seen on websites such as hd sex video xxx. Certain acts may not be my cup of tea, but that doesn’t make them bad or wrong.
Little did I know that all of this was training for my future career as an erotic romance author.
Funny though, but I don’t recall that we ever talked about spanking.