Girl Code is the tacit respect and support women give to each other. One major aspect focuses on how friends treat and respond to each others’ boyfriends. Under “girl code,” it’s a no-no to date a guy that your friend really, really likes even if they were never together as a couple. It would be a violation of girl code to date your friend’s ex-husband. Basically girl code boils down to “chicks before dicks.”
But how far should girl code go? Is it absolute? Should you allow girl code to supersede happiness? Is girl code something that only millennials follow or does it apply to everyone at every stage of life?
For example: Couple A and Couple B are friends. Both couples are in love with their respective spouses. Late in life, each now elderly couple loses a spouse. The widow and widower have been friends all their lives, had comforted each other through their loss, and now in their remaining golden years, have found love again –with each other. Is it a violation of girl code for the surviving wife to marry the husband of her best friend?
What if they were younger? What if the couples were in their 30s or 20s? Would it make a difference?
In my new erotic paranormal romance, Destiny’s Chance, Destiny Grable loves Chance Everett, her best friend’s boyfriend. But, she has never, ever acted on her feelings or betrayed her friend, Zoe. She kept it to herself and didn’t tell anybody how she felt. I make that clear in the book and in the blurb.
But what happens is that after Destiny’s friend is killed in an accident, Destiny’s soul possesses her friend’s body. Destiny, who has become Zoe in the eyes of the world, is now Chance’s girlfriend. She didn’t choose to take Zoe’s place, she wishes she could bring her back, but after soul-searching she does decide to try to use her new life to claim Chance’s love.
The reviews for Destiny’s Chance have been overwhelmingly positive (my best reviews ever, for any book!), but one NetGalley reviewer said I violated Girl Code:
“It was kind of…a turn off to think that this is her friend’s guy that she’s beginning a relationship with while being in her friend’s body. Girl Code seemed to apply before the accident but flew out the window afterwards. I think maybe I would have just preferred a set up where it wasn’t her good friend’s ex.”
What do you think? Does girl code always apply? Did being reincarnated as her friend violate Girl Code? Should Girl Code supersede happiness? Please share your thoughts.