For authors: 3 tips for writing a HOT sex scene

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It take finesse to write a sex scene. I often find that writing one takes more time than any other kind of scene. And while writing one sex scene is challenging enough, writing several (three, four, even five) per erotic romance is more difficult still. How do you make them sound different? How do you avoid the same word usages? How do you keep them from becoming mechanical?

Here are 3 techniques:

1. Go beyond the physical. Add sensation, thought, and emotion. Describe the tactile details–does the caress feel soft, warm, hard, abrasive, rough? What emotions does the act stir? Love? Triumph? Fear? Anger even? What are your characters thinking? Hint: it should be related to the plot.

2. Include a balance of action, description, and dialog. Action is who is doing what to whom: the kissing, the touching, the fucking. Description: use the five senses to show the characters and their setting. Dialog will increase the pace  and move the plot. Go beyond “real utterances” like “oh God,” to dialog that is better than real but that sounds believable. (The moment of orgasm is not the time to discuss relationship issues!).

3. If you want your readers to turn to the next chapter, don’t end a chapter with characters having “done it,” end the chapter with them about to do it.

For more tips and techniques–and more than 1.200 useful, functional sexual synonyms, check out Naughty Words for Nice Writers.


NaughtyWords600x900If you’ve struggled to find the right tone for your romantic sex scene, stared at the computer for 15 minutes trying to come up with the perfect verb, become stymied because some terms are too crude while others are too flowery, or found yourself reusing the same words over and over, Naughty Words for Nice Writers, A Sexual and Spanking Thesaurus can help you break through those barriers. Cara Bristol, the author of 17 erotic romances, has written a guide to help you find the erotic words to write a sex scene that sizzles.

Naughty Words for Nice Writers is packed with more than 1,200 usable, functional synonyms geared for romance, erotic romance, and erotica. Included are 28 different “erotic word lists” such as male and female anatomy, foreplay, orgasm, specific sexual acts and kink, sexual noises, spanking terminology, and much more. The guide offers suggestions on how to write a sex scene and how to tighten your writing so it sings.

With an emphasis on verbs, this guide will help you “show” the intimacy between your characters rather than tell it. Whether you’re writing a “fade to black” scene or a graphic and explicit one, Naughty Words for Nice Writers will give you the words.

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6 Responses to For authors: 3 tips for writing a HOT sex scene

  1. Livia Grant says:

    Was writing a lot of new sex scenes this weekend and this thesaurus never left my desk. It is getting a workout! As always, you are sharing great advice.

  2. Ashe Barker says:

    I’ve had the kindle version for a while but just one-clicked the ‘real book’ version. It needs to be on the desk, not buried under smut in my kindle

    • Cara Bristol says:

      Thank you. I think the paperback version is much more usable, because you highlight and put sticky notes in the sections you use the most. The Kindle version would be good if you’re traveling and planning to do some writing.

  3. This little book is worth it’s weight in gold!

    • Cara Bristol says:

      LOL. Taking what you said literally, the book weighs 4.64 troy ounces x $1,100 per oz for gold, means it’s worth $5104. But readers can buy it for $9.99. Hey, that is a deal! (And the Kindle version is only $3.49).

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